Dear Abby: MIL crosses a line by insulting son’s wife

Dear Abby My daughter-in-law is very opinionated At times we get along But in the past she has upset me by accusing me of not doing the right thing She and my son have two young children together and full custody of his son from another mother I complimented my grandson on looking after his little sister at her birthday party and was advised that this wasn t the matter as she was being bullied by the other girls while he stood by and watched My grandson has been through a lot and I got upset and disclosed to my son Perhaps you need to consider the partners you choose Bear in mind this was all done via text I have given help with my grandchildren whenever it was requested My daughter in-law is now accusing me of preferring my grandson over her children which is not the scenario We now have a fractured relationship and can t seem to resolve it Please can you help Fractured in Australia Dear Fractured Your grandchildren all share the same father regardless of who their mothers are Your grandson could have handled the bullying complication better than he did but he may not have known how to step in Or may not have felt he was strong enough to intervene If you weren t fully aware of what was going on you couldn t have known the compliment you gave the boy was unwarranted HOWEVER for you to have explained your son what you did about his wife was insulting and unkind Begin apologizing profusely to her AND your son for losing your temper and saying something so hurtful If you do it may begin to heal the breach Dear Abby I have been married for years My husband is great and treats me well We ve had no problems I in recent days got in contact with my first boyfriend from years ago We have been texting on a daily basis We also talk on the phone and so on and so forth All the feelings I had for him have resurfaced which is not a good thing since I m married I have shed multiple tears over him he is also married and can t stop thinking about him Do I stay with the husband I have been with for years or take a chance with the old boyfriend He says he still loves me and has never forgotten about me Would he divorce his wife to be with me Apparently I m torn between two lovers and feeling like a fool Advice Facing a Choice in the East Dear Facing Who reached out to whom first If it was you why did you open Pandora s box looking for this man And why have you continued these texts and phone calls and so on and so forth I urge you to explore this before blowing up a marriage of years with a husband who is great and treats you well Would your first love marry you Who knows Would your husband ever forgive you Maybe not Please run this by a licensed therapist who can help you straighten out the strudel in your noodle Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA